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You Can Generate Attraction Regardless Of Your Looks
by Joseph Matthews

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as:

Some guys think they're too old.

Some men think they are too fat.

Some men think they are too short.

They could be too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

This simply is not the truth.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 - You must be good looking to attract women.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness.

Is there a difference?

Well, you can't help if you're good looking or not.  But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself.  You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 - Women Think Just As Men Do

It's natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

For instance - If you've ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it.  But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

To you, it was clear as day.  To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied.  You judge a woman based on how she looks, right?  You're able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

WRONG.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do.  That's not to say they don't care if a man is attractive or not.  But they don't place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.

Myth #3 - Women Notice Men's Insecurities

Keep in mind that we know our own self, better than anyone ever will. We see all our flaws, such as our large noses and ears, a weak chin or receding hairline.

We see it, no matter what it is.

And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too.  But the fact is, most people aren't very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.

Do you know that a woman may not at first find a man to be physically attractive and then somehow experience thrilling fun and pleasure; she will become attracted to him in time?

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You don't have to be a good guy to make women feel good!  You just need to know how to interact with them.

But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.

Sexual attraction is not only making a woman feel good by being around you, but arousing their passion as well.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.